Dating in the international church of christ
God is producing in us something that is very special and very precious.He is producing children much like Himself, and anything that gets in the way of that is not good.He wanted the same kind of affection and respect and honor and openness that a child would give to his father.In turn he would then treat them like a father would treat a son or a daughter, with the same kind of affection and respect and honor that would happen in a normal good family relationship. He launches into this exhortation—"not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers—with this idea: "Look, I've got something hard to say to you, but I'm being entirely open with you and I'm treating you with the love that you deserve, and I want you to treat me with the same respect and love by accepting my advice and my instruction." He showed his love for them by giving them the hard truth, and he wanted them to return or respond with the same love by accepting it and listening to what he said, just as our fathers would give us the advice we need whether we wanted it or not.
He does not say, "Don't date outside the church," but He says it in other ways that are very clear.
They thought what I said gave them "permission" to date and marry outside the church.
I want to state very clearly that this is something that I do not recommend in the least.
But I want to make it very clear that the Church of the Great God does not teach that dating outside the church is wise. We teach that baptized members should not date outside the church, and that baptized parents should not allow their minor children to date outside the church.
We do not teach that it is a good thing that our young people and older single people should date outside the church. Once children reach their maturity and still are not baptized, we then hope that they will decide not to date in the world because it is a trap that rarely produces good results.